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[lolabobs]

On the 10th October my boss came into work to announce to all that when he went into hospital for tests surrounding his suspected Hepatitis a couple of weeks prior, they had in fact discovered that he had liver cancer. I missed him, but he came in to answer questions about his planned treatment and to avoid rumours.

Today we heard he died over the weekend.

It's been a stunningly difficult day at work. He was a man who provoked strong reactions, and many people didn't like him. I've had numerous ... disagreements.. with him and his attitudes. But this was shockingly quick and, although I had little faith that he would beat it given the info he was giving about his treatment options, no one was expecting such a quick death. Work have been surprisingly empathic, our big boss drove over to break the news formally and they spent the afternoon calling those who were out of the office, or who have previously worked closely with him before making a company wide announcement. Big Boss even told us we could go home if we needed to.

It's been an awful atmosphere since we heard, shock and strangeness setting in and a sort of "what now" feeling. I've struggled with it - not so much through mourning him, just because of the emotions it triggers, the understanding and compassion I have for his family who are reeling in the face of the sudden loss of father/partner and I sort of felt a little guilty about that, but not really. We feel what we feel after all.

Still. A difficult, crappy day.

Comments

[cakesy.livejournal.com]

Oh god, that's quite a huge thing even when it's someone you had mixed feelings about. Hope everything's okay right now.

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Thanks - yes very odd feelings and huge. I'm okay just, I've had enough of today.

[kimberlyfdr.livejournal.com]

A very difficult day indeed :(

::Hugs::

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Thanks - it had been difficult - and now I've had enough of today, so I'm going to bed. x

[whatho.livejournal.com]

Oh, poor guy and his poor family. I hope you're relatively okay now.

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm okay. It's still very muted at work, but yeah.

[ashooles.livejournal.com]

Oh, wow, that did happen suddenly didn't it? It's always a bit of a shock when someone dies suddenly like that. At least he didn't suffer for that long.

It's still sad, though :(

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Very quick - but yes, we commented that it was better for him in that instant, rather than drawn out suffering - a huge shock though.

[sc-fossil.livejournal.com]

You've had a trying day! Sorry to hear about your boss. I do agree with you that his family needs understanding and compassion regardless of whether or not he was a personal friend. Everybody is in shock right now. Take care.

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Mmm yes, the office is still subdued and in shock today.

Thanks

[hardboiledbaby]

I'm sorry to hear that, Lola. *hugs*

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Thanks - yes, very much a shock.

[enednoviel.livejournal.com]

Aw. :/ Hope you're feeling better today. *hugs*

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

hi, yes, I'm dealing better today. The office is still subdued, especially amongst those of us who worked with in in GY before we moved, but am okay x

[scaratch.livejournal.com]

How awful, I'm so sorry to hear that news. It's a shock, regardless of how you felt about him. I can believe that you feel a bit guilty about however things might have been, because you have such a big heart! But you're absolutely right "We feel what we feel" ... It's not easy to get along with everyone, but you're still a kind-hearted and caring person... So it stands to reason that you're having those emotions and feeling compassion.
I hope you can find some comfort from this. I think it is wonderful that you are so caring... I wish more there were more people like you in the world! And if nothing else, maybe his death will change people's perspectives a bit at work, and make people a little kinder ... For a while anyway.

Take care *hugs*

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

Thank you for your kind words x

It's been a strange couple of days that's for sure. Lots of us, especially those who worked with him for years are still in shock, but I'm glad to see that even those who vocally hated him are still showing compassion for his situation and his family.

hugs

[kat-lair.livejournal.com]

Even when it's someone you don't always like, the shock of not having them there any more is massive. I'm sorry you had to go through that.